Dear Diana,
My friendship with my best buddy is under threat because of my heart. I've fallen for his sister. I never felt this way before about her — especially when we were kids — but things have changed now. I feel strongly about her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I haven't even proposed to her yet although I'm sure that she won't reject me. But at the same time, I'm unsure how my friend will react to it.
— Sandesh


Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Sandesh,
You are assuming too many things, before even saying anything. You feel your pal will react – chances are that perhaps he may not. You may have developed feelings for your pal's sister, but does she feel the same for you? All these years you were a pal and now you want to be her lover. Before telling your buddy anything, find out whether she feels the same way as you do. Gauge her reaction, once you are sure that she is interested, then tell your buddy. As he knows you well, chances are that he might just be overjoyed that your friendship is being cemented in a relationship with his family.