Trigger Warning: Mentions of illness and mental health challenges

When Manav’s* mother got diagnosed with cancer in early 1990s, it came as a shock for the entire family. “It was shocking. It wasn’t even the last thing we were expecting. When we got the news, we just didn’t know what to do,” he shares, adding, “In those times, the awareness about cancer was limited and we felt helpless. We went to several doctors before we could get the right treatment for her. To see my mom go through all the effects was heartbreaking."

National Cancer Awareness Day is observed in India on November 7 to raise awareness about the disease and its treatment. While the resources and support for cancer patients have been increasing over the years, the role of family caregivers in the journey of cancer treatment and recovery is often overlooked, and the support they need is often neglected. Caring for a family member or friend with cancer comes with a lot of responsibility and can be challenging. 

Dr. Indoo Ammbulkar, Director- Medical Oncology, HCG Cancer Center, Borivali, states, “As a caregiver, you provide physical and emotional support, playing a very significant role in their journey.” 

Besides extending physical and logistical support like helping them with day-to-day activities, taking them for treatment sessions, etc., caregivers also have to play other roles. Dr. Ammbulkar suggests the following ways family and friends can support patients: 

Get the facts right 
It is important to be informed about the type of cancer, various treatment alternatives, and the chances of success. With that information, you will help your loved one through the stage and prepare for potential side effects. Consult with your oncologist to better understand the treatment process and what other resources might be helpful for you and the patient. 

Motivate them 
Cancer treatment is very exhaustive, not just physically but mentally as well. Be a source of inspiration for them by spending time with the patient to improve their mood. Just sitting there for each session of treatment, talking about their improvement, or listening to them has a huge impact. 

Plan for financial concerns 
Arrange finances. This is usually a major concern. Meet with the oncologist and a financial advisor to understand the cost of treatment and any insurance or financial aid options. Some organisations offer support for cancer patients and families. Early planning can ease financial pressures, allowing you to focus on caregiving. 

Support the mental well-being of the patient 
Not only does cancer affect the patient but also the emotional well-being of the care partner. Positivity is key for best results; provide encouragement and comfort, where the patient knows they're not alone in this journey and heard. Alongside that, the caregiver should also ensure their well-being. 

While family and friends often fulfill the responsibility of the caregiver, one often forgets that they might also need motivation and encouragement and they might also need support for their mental well-being.